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Falling In Mechanized Love
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INTRODUCTION
This page explores the possibility that falling in love is a mechanised program. It talks about some of the romantic characteristics that can be triggered when thinking about falling in love with someone else. Arguments are presented to deconstruct this much cherished ideal and some reflections are given about how to deal with people you like in a different way.
FALLIN' IN LOVE, FALLIN'IN LOVE
Back in July 2007 I already mentioned the hunt for sex thought complex (see link above). After having touched upon this phenomenon of 'falling in love' myself recently I was determined to analyse it to the bone, especially after having noticed that it badly influenced my sense of joy which I have come to cherish. How could 'love' (cough, cough) make one feel worse instead of better? So I decided to ask me, myself and I about it and listen to what would come up.
TO ANALYSE LOVE IS SIMPLY NOT DONE
While trying to come to grips with what was occurring I noticed that the biggest problem I faced was the thought that kept on yelling: "You should not rationalize such a wonderful feeling like falling in love". Arguments like 'the wonderful passion of two people falling for each other', 'ooh, the thriving force of life beating in two people, making them become one', 'the beauty of only thinking about one person', 'this lovely disease, this lovely infatuation that makes the hearts of people move faster: the feeling that makes people feel alive', 'ooh, the wonderful desire to be together as much as possible', 'to look forward to being with each other again tomorrow', 'oh, why couldn't all the other people and all other activities just cease to exist, so that we can be together, feeling each other, smelling each other, resonating together as an eternal twin flame' (blablabla)?
OVERCOMING THE ANTI-MIND MOVEMENT
Slightly influenced by the anti-mind campaign of the desteni group (see link above) I had a hard time letting my mind return to the matters at hand. I noticed a strong pull towards going into that wave of undescribable passion and love, like stepping into a rollercoaster. This stupid rational mind should keep its hands off such a wonderful divine experience. Enjoy the vibrant ecstatic feeling and just surrender! Let go! Let go!
Fortunately I have a rather solid faith in my 'aligned' mental body, being not just a rational, logical machine, but a creative translator of all other parts that I consist of. When I was able to overcome this deeply-ingrained belief-system called 'falling in love is the most wonderful thing a human being can experience' a sense of joy came over me followed by a strong inclination to cry. Now, that was weird. It almost seemed as if my own self within me was applauding for this discovery, as if they were happy that I had discovered this nasty trap. This feeling increased when I combined the words 'falling in love' with 'mechanized'.
WHAT'S WRONG WITH FALLING IN LOVE?
First of all, this is only my recent subjective take on matters. Perhaps I am being too premature here, but it sure feels good to explore this new path. So, what could be wrong with allowing yourself to participate in all the elements associated with 'falling in love'?
Well, you allow yourself to become dependent on someone else. You build a huge energetic bond between yourself and someone else, draining the both of you of a lot of energy. You spend an enormous amount of time and energy on someone else. This time and energy cannot be invested in your own process of self-realisation or biological ascension. It might just be a very powerful machine that turns off your inner translator and creates dependency that can last for ages, because of all the doubts that often come when you fall in love: does she really love me? Does he really love me? Will he or she love me tomorrow? What can I do to make her like me better? How can I get in touch with her/him? etc. etc.
REFLECTING UPON ALTERNATIVES
If this highly deemed phenomenon called 'falling in love' really is a kind of mind-narrowing energy-draining machine, what could be a less harmful alternative? Couldn't we develop a way of liking other people without falling into a state of dependence? Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could remain as joyfully balanced even when we like someone else? If we could just remove the delusional romanticism and feelings of wanting to 'own' someone else, we might simply enjoy someone else's presence and be able to 'dance' with someone else for a while staying fully tuned to your own inner life.
Perhaps a new kind of relationship could develop that is fueled from the connection within, not desiring to be made whole by someone else's energy. This would imply the removal of certain vocabulary like possessive pronouns in sentences like 'That is my friend/husband/wife, I want you to be mine'. That you can honestly say to yourself that you don't need that other person to be happy. You would have a source within that feeds you. There would be no fear of being alone, because you would like to be with yourself for it provides a key to limitless expansion. If only you would accept such an element in your reality.
I tend to think we have been fooled by this 'falling in love'-energy draining-magnet. I believe now that a contact with another person can be much deeper and more intense if you are both able to kill off this dependency-inducing program.
Gibbon
September 2007
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